As you do not get the attention of anyone, you discover that in the conflict you can make feel another guilty and receive love. And you call the attention. That’s why you get addicted to the destructive relationships. The attention of the other flames in the fight. This is harmful. And it is not love.
You have to find by yourself what you motive. You have to improve your self-esteem. When you fall in love with yourself, you will understand that it is a relationship without output. Finish it, to welcome a new love that is in tune with your new way of life. There are people who have Affairs with married people banned. Or committed; No te enganes. You are auto-destruyendo you.
Because you have low self-esteem, do you think that you can’t get a free man and you feel good looking man alien. This is an obsession, that is not going to lead to true love. When you dream with someone you barely know, do not hesitate: no es amor. When lot, attraction. And when we do not know either underwrite the person all the characteristics of your ideal partner. Until you know your true love, you will know clearly their strengths and weaknesses. You know his life. And only at that time, you will know if it is love or was obsession. The mind is powerful, and can make you sick or fall in love. And everything is in the thoughts. It’s pretty excited by someone, but passing emotion to the obsession is not healthy. Sometimes, you will have couple and you’re obsessed by anyone, that you can’t get out of your mind. It is simple. You’re in love with your partner, because you know it though your mind this lover of the other person, for being an unrealized dream. Love, is based on an understanding and respect for your partner. You see clearly their defects and however you have affection to his life. In obsession, is due to low self esteem if I leave, I won’t find someone else, not can leave me for her. It is precisely when terminas relations without output, when a new love appears how you want to appear if you are not first free? How want a lover, are you closer if you see that you are present to another person and his new partner?. Also, the imagination exerts influence on the obsession. It is easy to dream that a person has the characteristics of the couple, and watch it from afar, to face up to a real relationship and be rejected. Without forcing to change anyone, or control their feelings, we must stop being victims and be a little more selfish, thinking more in ourselves, the self-acceptance and self-love thrown to the front, and feel that it is not necessary that others need our care in order to be happy.